One-Message-Wonder: a person who randomly contacts you out of no where and then never responds to the initiated contact. He or she might say something like, "hey lady what's up?" It is like the only thing that this person ever says to you. A one-message-wonder only "sings" the same tired tune, for which they become famous in your social circles, like the vocal stylings of Right Said Fred. (You probably don't even know that band by name because they are synonymous their only hit song "I'm Too Sexy.")
I have a girlfriend that I hardly ever see. She is notorious for randomly Facebooking me with the post, "Where have you been lady, let's hang out!" And when you think to yourself oh cool, we should catch up. So you message her back, "ya let's grab drinks, I'm free next week." And then nothing. Complete silence. It's like digital crickets are chirping around your lonely Facebook comment to reinforce your virtual diss. In reality, she doesn't miss me and we never actually hang out, she just writes to me every so often out of the blue. It seriously seems like she senses when she has completely fallen off my social radar, and then like clockwork, I get a notice that she has posted a message on my wall. And I, of course, respond.
The communication offender can also be someone that you dated briefly in the past. You two maybe hung out for a bit and then one of you decided that you were over it. Times goes by and you have forgotten about your brief rapport. Once the thought of him is erased, you get a text messages from him which says, "hey, how are you? I'm in town, let's catch up tonight." You, forgetting why things fizzled in the first place, shrug and say sure why not. So you text back, "Sure I've got early evening plans, but let's meet up afterward." Then you wait. And nothing! Later your phone signal light flashes and you think it's his text back, but it's actually your poorly timed LinkedIn updates email notification. Now someone you have completely forgotten about has reemerged and you actually care about seeing him! This is the problem with the one-message-wonder, they get into your head.
In both cases, you feel like a chump. Every time the one-message-wonder reaches out to you, you respond. You think it would nice to catch up, why not. However, that is not the one-message-wonder's intention. You actually don't know why they contacted you in the first place. They don't want to see you, because the one-message-wonder never replies—ever. So why do they contact you ask? Maybe your one-message-wonder doesn't have anything better going on, so they give you a shout out you until something better comes along. And something better did come along, and it came along before your text message.
The best part is, when you realize that your "friend" is in fact a one-message-wonder, you wish that you never wrote them back. But you did, against your better judgment. So you vow never to contact them again (signified by taking him or her out of your phone or deleting related emails). Then when you have made the mental shift to move past your flaky foe, they contact you again and pop back on your radar. But you can break the cycle, don't fall prey to the one-message-wonder.
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